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New Leaf Literary and Media is having a Query Contest - it needs to be a one-sentence pitch and it's due by Friday (5/24). 

If you enter, come back here and let us know.

Good luck!

Survival Tip #13: Wallow a Little Then Let it Go

I don't have to tell all of you that rejection stings.  We've all been there - if not with our writing then at least in life.  (And if you meet a person who says they've never been rejected ever, wonder if they've got a bridge to sell you, too.)

First let me start off by saying I don't think mine is the generally accepted way to handle rejection.  In general, we're all supposed to just suck it up.  And for godsakes, don't talk about it on the internet.  Makes you look like a loser or some such crap.  (A notion probably put forth by the same people who claim to never have been rejected, I assume.)

:shrug:

What I do to combat rejection is I wallow in it a little.  I bitch.  I complain.  Sometimes I write a blog post or two trying to figure out what the hell went wrong.  (Always without being specific with the exact names of agents and agencies - I'm wallowing, but I'm not insane.)  The point is, I let it out.

Then I let it go.

Sure, my last rejection stung like the Dickens.  And sure, I pissed and moaned about it to friends - and perfect strangers on the blogs.  Then I let it go.  It is what it is.  You have to get it out and let it go so you can move on.

Which means more submissions and ultimately more rejections.  And perhaps more wallowing.  Trust me, though, over time rejections do sting less - unless it's a submission you really had your heart set on, but even that sting goes away faster with each instance. 

And hey, if my wallowing helps another writer see that he isn't alone in his pain, then that's even better. 

What do you think?  Do you wallow or do you hold it inside?  Or do you just wallow privately where no one can see you?  Does seeing someone else go through the same pain as you lessen it for you a little?

How Do You Keep Writing?

This morning there's an awesome article over at the Writers Digest blog:

"How to Keep Writing in the Face of Rejection"

Go read that and then come back here and tell us how YOU keep writing in the face of rejection. 

Some days I'm not sure how I do it.  I guess I have to set aside the idea of getting published and just write for myself.  Because after the rejections weigh me down, and I'd rather curl up in a ball under the covers until the world ends, something has to get my fingers on the keyboard again.  I can't not write - not for very long anyway.

So, how do you keep writing when all you want to do is quit?  How do you not quit?

The Purpose of The Guide

Hi All!

I don't know how necessary this is, but since I got a rather strange email this morning, I thought I would explain what this blog is all about (and what it's not about).

I created The Guide to reach out to other unpublished writers.  We're here to help each other.  I bring in published writers from time to time - because they've been where we are and they made it out.  I want to help other unpublished writers become published writers - and hopefully help myself reach that goal, too, in the process.

I do not, and will not, use this place as a means to sell other people's services.  Not that some  services aren't perfectly valid and necessary.  I just don't want to sell that stuff here.

I will use this to help sell other author's books.  Someday I'll be published, too, and I hope someone out there does a little helping sell my books, too.  It's a pay it forward system.  But I don't do this because I hope that someday you'll all feel beholden to me and feel like you have to buy my books.  I certainly don't feel like I have to buy my guest posters' books because they stopped by here.  I buy them because I want them.  I hope you all will do the same when the time comes.

So, my little welcome message over there on the right?  It's meant to encourage other WRITERS to guest post here.  It is not meant to encourage people to stop by and hawk their wares.  While I do appreciate the fact that people have services they need to sell in order to buy groceries, I don't want it done here. 

This place is for writers.  Period.  Fiction and non-fiction.  Hell, I'll even love it if a editor stops by - if they've got something writerly to say.  As long as the post they have in mind isn't slanted toward selling their services in particular, we can work something out.  Write me a post geared toward helping writers, and you're golden.  (The same goes for cover artists, illustrators, publishers, agents, etc.) 

Want to write a sales flyer for your company disguised as an informational blog post?  Head on down the road.

I hope all that makes sense and clarifies things for the casual passerby. 

Thanks for stopping by.

-B.E. Sanderson

Guest Post: "Avoiding Career Mistakes" by Debra Webb

Avoiding Career Mistakes

There are lots of missteps or mistakes one can make in any career. Some are unavoidable and ultimately prove to be learning experiences that help to mold you as a writer and to provide landmarks along the path of your career. The motto I would urge you to embrace is: Experience is wisdom. Wisdom thrives on knowledge. Knowledge is power. As a writer you already possess the power of the pen, but, if you’re like most writers, your greatest desire is a strong, powerful, enduring career. Absolutely doable as long as you avoid the first and biggest mistake any writer can make: Giving up. Never, ever give up!

As you develop your writing voice and flex that storytelling muscle, there are a few things you should consider up front. What sort of stories do I enjoy writing? What do I write best? What type of stories do I want my name to evoke when mentioned by a reader or editor? Simply put, what’s your “brand?” I’m not suggesting that a writer can’t delve into more than one arena, but I am saying that the vast majority of your best known and most successful authors are associated with a specific type of story. Who wouldn’t think of horror when Stephen King is mentioned? Or John Grisham when talking legal thrillers? Or romance in a discussion about Nora Roberts? When you’ve mastered a genre to the point that your name is synonymous with that genre, then you can rest assured that you have built a sizeable audience. A sizeable audience equates to good sales. I would urge you to avoid the mistake of writing all over the place and FOCUS. Decide where your strengths lie (romance, suspense, mystery, whatever!) and focus. Create amazing characters immersed in a compelling story that shines with your distinct voice!

Avoid surrounding yourself with (perhaps well-meaning) folks who undermine your confidence. If your goal is to be a published author and to have a long prosperous career then you must treat your writing as a business. Love your friends and family but avoid allowing too much outside influence in your business, particularly if it undermines your confidence, frustrates you, or just plain old confuses you. Focus. Work hard and trust your instincts. Again, remember that knowledge is power so make knowing the market and the industry a part of your work. Amid other industry professionals is the best place to learn (conferences, chapter meetings). My younger daughter is a nurse and although she is licensed and employed she must take a certain number of classes each year to stay licensed. Just because you get that first contract doesn’t mean you’re done with learning. The industry and the market are evolving and changing, stay on top of those changes.

Once your book is on the shelves, don’t be afraid of the reviews or the reader feedback. Make note of any points you feel are useful and put the others behind you. Frustration is detrimental—avoid it! Every single reader is not going to love every single book you write. Even you won’t love each one equally. Each story is a unique creation with distinct characters who, like real people, are different. If you have difficulty dealing with bad reviews, avoid them.

Lastly, once your career has gotten off the ground and you have a few published books under your belt, I would urge you to avoid two major pitfalls we face every single day in this business by doing two things: 1) Never forget that this is business. As creative people we have a tendency to forget to put on our business hats when it’s time to talk contracts and the like. 2) Never stop growing as a storyteller. The day you think you can’t learn anything new in the course of writing a story is the day you stop putting your whole heart into your work.

DEBRA WEBB, born in Alabama, wrote her first story at age nine and her first romance at thirteen. It wasn’t until she spent three years working for the military behind the Iron Curtain—and a five-year stint with NASA—that she realized her true calling. A collision course between suspense and romance was set. Since then she has penned nearly 100 novels including her internationally bestselling Colby Agency series. Her debut romantic thriller series, the Faces of Evil, propelled Debra to the top of the bestselling charts for an unparalleled twenty-four weeks and garnered critical acclaim from reviewers and readers alike. Don’t miss a single installment of this fascinating and chilling twelve-book series!

Visit Debra at www.thefacesofevil.com or at www.debrawebb.com. You can write to Debra at PO Box 12485, Huntsville, AL, 35815.

RAGE, the fourth installment of the Faces of Evil series is in stores now! 

Disturbing echoes of a Charles Manson massacre disrupt a quiet Birmingham suburb...a missing child is the only witness. Deputy Chief Jess Harris puts everything on the line when her key suspect is one of Birmingham's finest. With a killer now focused on her, she must find the missing witness and the truth before it's too late for them both.

And Deb has graciously agreed to hold a contest - giving away two copies of this awesome book (U.S. and Canada only).  Leave a comment to enter.

Thanks so much for stopping by The Guide today, Deb! 

A Quick Poll

Hey All!

When you get a chance, stop on over to The Writing Spectacle and help me out by answering a couple quick questions.  Thanks!

-B.E.

Guest Post: "Finding Balance" by Lynn Viehl

This morning, I'd like to welcome the most awesome Lynn Viehl to The Guide.  Lynn's latest book Nightbound - the third in her Lords of the Darkyn trilogy - comes out May 7th. 

Finding Balance

Lynn Viehl

Today I have to do laundry, write twenty pages of fiction and finish some promotions.  To do that I must ignore the Internet, e-mail, new story ideas, my next series in development, working on my art quilt, playing with the dogs and the other thousand distractions around me.  I'll also have to deal with the unexpected, like Mom calling about a medical issue, my daughter needing a ride to her volunteer job, improvising a meal because I forgot to defrost something and a friend who drops by without calling, which will over-excite the dogs, which usually results in a digestive accident.

That's a typical day for me.  On the upside I don't work a day job, my family helps out with the chores and sometimes the pups don't puke in front of my friends.  I also have no web site, Facebook page or Twitter account to update, or any cons or book signings to attend.  To be honest  I haven't made any public appearances since 2003.  Sounds like complete madness, doesn't it?  Everyone knows a pro writer has to do all that stuff and then some, or their career is utterly doomed.

I haven't always been this doomed.   When I turned pro I let other writers, editors, and the agent tell me what to do.  They said I could sell a lot of books if I did what all the other authors did.  What they didn't know was anything about me, my shyness, my disabilities or the fact that being in any kind of spotlight makes me blush, perspire, stammer and even occasionally throw up.  

For three very long, dreary years I forced myself to do what they said.  I didn't sell a lot of books or make any of the lists, but I did get steadily depressed, actually stopped writing and seriously considered quitting Publishing.  This after I'd spent ten years pursuing this dream job, which turned out to be a nightmare, all because I sucked at being an author.

 Okay, I didn't suck at everything.  I write a lot, and I'd begun posting free stories on the Internet for my readers, which they loved.  I also enjoy teaching writing (weird, right?  But true -- when I talk shop I forget to be shy) and the online free writing classes I hosted for two years were fun and quite popular.  So was my weblog.  For me all it was all writing, and when I write I'm a different person -- probably because I'm doing what I love.  

That realization was my personal/professional epiphany.   I decided that if I was going to fail, I'd do things my way by focusing on my strengths, not my weaknesses.  

Before we get into what happened to me let's talk about you.  Are you happy, productive, and selling your work?  If yes, you don't need my advice; you've already figured it out.  If you want you could come over and help me get this laundry done.  If you're unhappy, not writing and/or not selling, then you may be where I was.  This doesn't mean you have to give it all up to do nothing but write, but you might consider making some changes. 

Speaking of writing, how much did you get done this week?  Couple of pages?  A chapter?  Nothing?  Now think about how much time you spent updating Facebook, Twitter, promoting your latest release and whatever else you did that was not actual writing.  Compare the two figures -- are they equal?  How do you feel about everything else?  Does updating Facebook make you as happy as writing a fight scene?  Is Tweeting as big a thrill as typing the last chapter of a story?  

If your answered yes to the above, then you've probably balanced your writing equilibrium between writing and non-writing activities.  If not, you may be wasting energy on things you dislike that make you feel lousy in return -- aka creative poison.

Do you love going to writer conferences?  Plenty of people think they're fun, and there are lots of editors and agents at them, too.  Once during an online discussion I suggested that for every con any writer wanted to attend they should first write two books.  This idea scandalized everyone until I asked them for their ratio between cons attended and manuscripts finished.  Most said they attended at least three cons per year but rarely completed even one book in the same time.  Half of the others said they had yet to finish writing their first novel.  Going to a con to have fun and pitch editors is great, but you do need to have something to sell. 

Making big changes in your writing life can be scary, especially if you're convinced you have to do the must-dos.  What if you swapped out just one thing you do from something you hate to something you love?  Try it for a week and see if it makes a difference in your productivity, your creativity and how you feel about your writing life.  If it works, try it with something else.  If it doesn't, try something different.  It doesn't matter if you find your writing equilibrium via a radical epiphany like mine or through a subtle and gradual process; both roads lead to the same destination:  a more productive writing life.       

How does finding that balance pay off?  Well, after  I found my writing equilibrium I didn't quit or fail.  Seven of my novels subsequently made the NY Times bestseller list, and my fiftieth novel will be released In August.  I've taught thousands of writers how to cope with the work and the life.  I've also been ranked at various times as one of the top 100 female bloggers on the internet, the top 50 book bloggers, and the top 10 SF author bloggers on the internet.  

Success is wonderful, but what really matters is that I'm happy and I love my job.  In any kind of life, there is no better balance than that.            

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Lynn is the blogger better known as Paperback Writer.  Check her out, read her books, and bask in her awesomeness.

Oh, and even though Lynn has been more than gracious giving us a guest blog today, she's also decided to do a contest, too.  One lucky commenter will win the following gorgeous prize from Lynn:

This is what Lynn had to say about the prize: "The winner will get the tote (designed and hand-quilted by me), which will be packed with a signed set of the trilogy, a sampler of herbal teas from Celestial Seasonings, a box of Walker's shortbread rounds, a reusable insulated sports bottle, two mini garden kits (Sunflower and Herbs in a Can) and a green quilted bookmark." 

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So, get commenting.  Lynn will be stopping by throughout the day to reply and keep the conversation going.

And thanks, Lynn, for stopping by today!